10 Thoughts about becoming a Dad

     Finding out that your wife is pregnant is one of the most exciting and overwhelming things, especially if its with your first child.   There are so many emotions that take place all in the span of about… 30 seconds.  So here are a few thoughts that fly through the male brain at that exact moment.  Keep in mind that this is the male brain and it can often look much different than the female brain.  Sometimes we come across as knuckle draggers…

1. “Oh my gosh! I am going to be a dad!

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2. “Oh my gosh… I am going to be a dad…

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3. “There is no way that I am adult enough to do this!”

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4. “Wait… I cant afford a kid!”

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5. If its a boy I will teach him to be a man! (even if neither one of us can grow a beard)

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6. If its a girl do i have to play “dress up”?

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7. Im definitely not wearing one of those baby carrier things!

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8. If I have a daughter she is never dating?

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9. I will never be a dorky dad!

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10. I will never get a minivan!

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Happy Father’s Day to all you awesome dads out there!

– Colton

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You Can’t Have Enough Ice Cream

Hey friends!

Yesterday was “one of those days.”  Where I was that mom and my son was that kid…  My incredibly sleep deprived self, got my kids up and at ’em, dropped my hubs off at work (I see you one vehicle families) and headed to summer book club!  Shout out to all you ladies who so kindly and graciously helped me in my state of craziness.   I hope the crazy exit we made didn’t keep you from hearing from the Lord!

I knew I had to leave early for Jaxon’s speech therapy but decided to go anyways.   I was really excited and knew Jaxon would have a great time playing with his friends and it would be a win for all of us.   Isn’t is great when your kids throw you for a loop?  As it turns out,  my son is not the super human who can function forever without sleep.  Apparently the perfect storm was brewing and decided to hit.  In the middle of book club.

I know that the ladies I’m surrounded by are all incredible and godly moms who were most likely not thinking about how I obviously don’t have my crap together and have no control over my kid.  I know that they are AMAZING and probably felt sorry for me and empathized with me.  I know thats how I feel when I see other moms in the same position.

Kid screaming and throwing a fit, baby crying because she’s hungry,  making a very loud and disruptive exit.   And I thought I would just sneak out.   Um no, not happening.   All of this after my toddler dumped toys out everywhere and kept screaming and having meltdowns.   Did I mention all the other children were perfect little angels?

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As I sat in the car, I immediately began texting my husband and telling him all about how horrible our child had been and how embarrassed I was.   I told him that I was never going back to book club again.   How I felt like a horrible mom.  How I don’t have any idea what I’m doing at this momming thing.  How I just felt like I couldn’t get it right.

Ever been there?

Some days go like this.  Some days I feel like a crazy person.  Some days I feel like I’m barely holding it together.

Some days I have ice cream for lunch.


But what happens when thats not enough? What happens when everything I try to do to comfort myself fails? What happens when nothing is good enough?

I find that when I try to do this on my own, I fail epically.  Ever since I became a mom, I’ve felt clueless on what I’m doing.  That’s why it’s vital that I rely on the Lord.

I need Him.

I am daily aware of my weakness.  While I can use that to remind me of my need for the Lord and the importance of dwelling in His presence, I tend to allow the enemy to use my weakness to imprison me.

My first thought when leaving book club was not, “I can’t do this, I so need the Lord’s help.” It was “I can’t do this. I’m not cut out for this. I’m never showing my face here again.”

The enemy likes to leverage these moments against us.  Remind us of our shortcomings and hold us hostage. He likes to feed our insecurities and negative thoughts so we don’t receive what God has for us.

How easy it is to allow the enemy to have this power over us.  How easy it is to focus on our weakness instead of the Lord’s strength.


Live in the Lord’s strength, freedom, and grace today. You CAN do it because God’s got you! He supplies all that we need.  We just have to ask Him.

Prayer: Lord, help me and anyone else who is struggling with this. Help us take our eyes off of ourselves and our weaknesses and place them on You and Your perfect strength.  Help us to rely on YOUR strength and not on our own.  Fill us up.  Encourage us.  Take over our way of doing things and help us to walk in Your ways.  Amen! 

Action:  When you find yourself dwelling on your failures and shortcomings, refocus yourself on God’s perfect strength.  Allow Him to lead you instead of doing it alone.

I am so thankful for my amazing mom friends.  I am thankful for the ones who call to encourage me when I feel like giving up.  Thank you to every lady who checked on me and empathized with my day.  I love you!

Surround yourself with these types of ladies and be that girl yourself.

Love you all! Let’s take on life together!

~ Megan

Insecurity vs. Obedience

Let me take a moment to say a sincere thank you to everyone who has read, commented, liked, responded, and started following Heart of a Girl!  You guys are my heroes!   Thank you for encouraging me and laughing with me!

When I first felt the Lord stirring my heart about starting a blog,  I was hit with a lot of insecurities, doubts, and fears.   I felt like I had nothing to say.  I felt like EVERYONE had a blog and I would be just another person with a blog.  I felt like I didn’t have anything to offer.  All these “What ifs” started flooding my mind: 

What if I don’t have anything to say?
What if I quit this like so many other things I’ve quit?
What if I don’t follow through?
What if I lose interest?
What if I don’t know what I’m doing?
What if I can’t keep up with posting?
What if I’m not any good?
What if I’m just another blogger lost in the blogosphere?
What if I fail?
What if I say the wrong thing?
What if no one wants to read what I have to say?
What if no one likes it?
What if people think its stupid?
What if this….
What if that…

   These endless thoughts, fears, doubts – insecurities; flooded my mind.  I was so focused on these insecurities that I almost allowed them to cause me to be disobedient.   At the end of the day, my obedience matters not the answers to “What ifs”.  Even if my worst “What if” comes true, all I need to know is that I followed the Lord, trusted Him, and was obedient.

What is the Lord speaking to you about?  Are you walking in obedience or are you walking in fear?   Are you stepping out in faith and trusting Him even though the outcome is uncertain?  Is your mind so fogged with insecurity that you can’t see His will for you?

                                           “ Trust God from the bottom of your heart;
                                        don’t try to figure out everything on your own.
                        Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go;
                                              he’s the one who will keep you on track.
                                                 Don’t assume that you know it all.”
                                            Proverbs 3:5-7   (The Message)

Prayer:  Lord, thank you for being patient and gracious with us when we allow insecurities and fears to determine our steps instead of You.  Help us to follow You even when we are afraid.  Help us to trust that You have a plan and that following You is the best thing we could do.  Help us to be obedient and step out wherever you call us.   We want to be obedient no matter what!   No matter how hard or scary it may seem, we are trusting You!  I pray that you begin working miracles in the lives of those who are taking a step of faith with You!  Show them your goodness and faithfulness. Amen.

Action:  Evaluate yourself and begin walking in obedience in any area that you may currently be walking in fear.

Here’s to ignoring that voice that yells at me “WHAT IF” every time I hit the “Publish” button.   You guys are awesome!

Let’s take on life together!

~ Megan